Finding the Focus and Discipline for What Matters Most
What Drives Your Choices Makes a Difference
The first quarter of the year has already sped by. How are you coming along on all the goals you set for 2018? If you have checked most of the goals off your list, congratulations are in order. It’s time to evolve with a new set of goals.
If you are like most of us, however, you may have one or two areas where you are struggling. Which goal is causing you the most difficulty? Where do you feel stuck? Now is the perfect time of year to review goals, gauge progress, and reset your intentions.
What Drives Your Choices Matters
Before you beat yourself up about a lack of motivation, let’s review your choices. For instance, if your goals at work were set by your boss and you don’t respect your boss, that’s clearly an obstacle. You may be struggling because your boss set a goal that doesn’t make sense or doesn’t serve the company. On the other hand, you may be struggling with the bosses’ goals simply because you find it difficult to admit your boss could be right.
This is a good time to separate such conflicting ideas. Maybe this once your boss is right. Even if she isn’t right, she is still the boss. You may need to work through your inner conflict until you move on to a better situation. If putting up big wins in your current situation can help you win in the long-term, then use that as your inner driver, and give up on your drive to fight the boss.
If you set a goal based on what you “should” do, such as reading more business books, now is an excellent time to examine your motivations. Revisit your personal and career values. Is there something that genuinely matters to you that drives your goal? If you can find an area of business that lights you up, then focus your reading choices in that area.
For example, if you are keen on improving your communication skills, narrow your reading choices to that single topic. Before you buy a book, watch a few TED Talks on the topic. Start following an author on LinkedIn and read a few posts before you buy their book.
Break Your Goals into Smaller Increments
It is easy to become discouraged when you see an essential goal slipping away. Remember that small wins do add up. Experiencing small successes will help you change your attitude, which in turn will help you hone your focus and discipline.
Forgiveness is a Necessary Skill
Have you been hard on yourself for not achieving goals in the past? Most of us struggle with forgiving ourselves as much or more than we struggle with achieving goals. Allow yourself the opportunity to try new things, to fail, to dust yourself off, recommit, and try again.
In a recent YouTube video, the actor Will Smith talked about self-discipline as the key to achieving our dreams. He said, “You cannot win the war against the world if you can’t win the war against your own mind.”
What one inspired action can you take today toward your goal?